Parenting. Sounds magical right? But I think, parents all around the world would agree that it’s never easy. I won’t deny the ecstasy of watching a baby grow in a womb and then bringing your very child from the hospital but as soon as you set out of the hospital, that’s where your test really begins.
An ultrasound can never determine how a baby really feels when he/she is inside their mother’s womb and neither a gut feeling of either parent can determine the real feelings of their offspring just because the child is part of them.
To deal with anger, we must understand how this emotion rises to the surface. It is essential to understand that anger is a secondary emotion, which means it precedes a primary emotion.
Finding the root cause of your child’s anger is important but that does not mean it’s difficult. One must note that anger mainly arise due to jealousy/disappointment (when a sibling or a different kid their age receives more attention than them), loneliness (especially when they are out casted from their surroundings), sadness or depression (in case of teenagers), embarrassment or shame (in case of a scolding), fear or insecurity (when they feel they are good enough for the prevailing surroundsing).
Yes parents, we understand that anger isn’t exactly a positive feeling but it’s an emotion just like joy. It is important to feel it time-to-time.
How do we handle a child’s anger? Firstly, yes, an angry child can be a nightmare for any parent, but that’s where a parent is required to act wisely and calmly as possible. Remember readers, you do not put out a fire using fire or petrol or Coca Cola, it can be only put out by water. When your child receives little to no reaction of their anger, their mind will eventually start cooling off.
Secondly, if the anger goes out of control, then make sure you mark a small restraint around your offspring but not too strongly. Thirdly, communication is the key. If the child continues to throw tantrums, be empathetic to their emotions, wait till their lava cools down and then clean up. It will never make sense to touch the hot lava freshly oozing out from a volcano. When your kids encounter anger for the first time, they might feel an overwhelming confusion rising in their brain. Teach your kids about emotions so that they have a better understanding about themselves. You can also refer your kids to movies/shows/videos which talk about the understanding of emotions. for example, showing a movie like Inside Out (2015) can really work in your favor.
Also, when infuriated, encourage your kids to indulge themselves in any activity, like listening to music, reading books or playing a game which involves more of your brain involvement.
Do not forget, dear readers, it is important for your kid to feel and let out their anger when they sense it inside. Don’t discourage them from suppressing it.
It only makes to wait for the storm to pass rather than developing a technology which controls it.
An ultrasound can never determine how a baby really feels when he/she is inside their mother’s womb and neither a gut feeling of either parent can determine the real feelings of their offspring just because the child is part of them.
To deal with anger, we must understand how this emotion rises to the surface. It is essential to understand that anger is a secondary emotion, which means it precedes a primary emotion.
Finding the root cause of your child’s anger is important but that does not mean it’s difficult. One must note that anger mainly arise due to jealousy/disappointment (when a sibling or a different kid their age receives more attention than them), loneliness (especially when they are out casted from their surroundings), sadness or depression (in case of teenagers), embarrassment or shame (in case of a scolding), fear or insecurity (when they feel they are good enough for the prevailing surroundsing).
Yes parents, we understand that anger isn’t exactly a positive feeling but it’s an emotion just like joy. It is important to feel it time-to-time.
How do we handle a child’s anger? Firstly, yes, an angry child can be a nightmare for any parent, but that’s where a parent is required to act wisely and calmly as possible. Remember readers, you do not put out a fire using fire or petrol or Coca Cola, it can be only put out by water. When your child receives little to no reaction of their anger, their mind will eventually start cooling off.
Secondly, if the anger goes out of control, then make sure you mark a small restraint around your offspring but not too strongly. Thirdly, communication is the key. If the child continues to throw tantrums, be empathetic to their emotions, wait till their lava cools down and then clean up. It will never make sense to touch the hot lava freshly oozing out from a volcano. When your kids encounter anger for the first time, they might feel an overwhelming confusion rising in their brain. Teach your kids about emotions so that they have a better understanding about themselves. You can also refer your kids to movies/shows/videos which talk about the understanding of emotions. for example, showing a movie like Inside Out (2015) can really work in your favor.
Also, when infuriated, encourage your kids to indulge themselves in any activity, like listening to music, reading books or playing a game which involves more of your brain involvement.
Do not forget, dear readers, it is important for your kid to feel and let out their anger when they sense it inside. Don’t discourage them from suppressing it.
It only makes to wait for the storm to pass rather than developing a technology which controls it.
AADI GARG
M.A. (Psy.), DCGC(NCERT), RCI REGD.
PSYCHOLOGIST | CAREER COUNSELOR
